married men and 20 year olds

Almost sounds like a book title but seen as I don't know the end can't write that one yet!

Can't help but wonder if there is something about me that attracts these guys. For some reason lately the guys that have paid me attention are about 20 years old, now while some would wonder what my problem is with this, it's not at all what I'm used to. I find it hard to believe that someone of 20 will want the same things as me. While the attention is flattering, and yes I do have a bit of fun flirting with them, I can't take it seriously.
So married men, while none of them have a crossed a line they have walked very close to it! I have very little to lose, I would never intentionally try to split someone up, but again I can't help but have a little fun flirting! Again I can't take it seriously, they are married after all!!
This year I have been attracted to 3 single men. One I have ended up pretty good friends with. We have a good time together, he was honest enough to tell me he wasn't looking for a relationship early on which has allowed us to get past that and be friends.
Another admitted he had just come out of a long term relationship, and I also will admit I let texts run away with me a bit when I had too much to drink and most likely scared him off a little!!! Alright a lot but hey... we bump into each other now and then but that was that.
The third well that's a tough one, I'm still seeing what happens there. He said we should go out again and I've made a couple of suggestions but no plans so far. I haven't really told him how attracted I am to him, determined to take a slower path. Got a lot on anyway so that will help. Will just say he has one of the best smiles ever.
So back to the married men and 20 year olds... my conclusion is this... they don't see beneath the surface. They see my outer shell of smiles and confidence and aren't really interested in what's beneath all that. Maybe some are but I don't seem to be able to get my head around that possibility. I could tell these guys about myself and what I want but would they actually believe me or think I was just telling them what they want to hear? Would they take the time to find out? For the married men I guess that a little female attention boosts their ego, safe flirting. I can't help but wonder what would have happened if we had met when both single though, would I be the wife with a flirty husband?! I'd like to think I'm sexual and sensual enough that flirting with others would not be necessary to feel wanted but you never can tell.
As it stands I will continue to amuse myself watching the world around me and hope that someone does take that time and effort to get to know me, not just the fun side, but the quiet side, the over thinking side and all the other sides!
Wish me luck :)